There’s a lot that you don’t realize about being a mom and business owner until you’re the one actually doing it. It’s hard and fun and so many things wrapped into one. So today I felt the need to share the top three things nobody told you about running your own business with kids.
- People aren’t going to always understand.
When I first decided to get serious about this whole photography thing it was made extra difficult by the fact that other people didn’t take me seriously. I feel like because so many stay at home moms do hobby-jobs on the side, it was easy for people to laugh and think “okay yeah, cool. I give this about 6 months before it dies out.”
Because of that I felt almost ashamed to admit I had started my own business. I was a business owner in the shadows for far longer than I care to admit, because I didn’t want to tell other people about it until I was proven successful. It’s silly, but I know for a fact I’m not the only one who did this.
The truth of the matter is, people aren’t always going to understand. There are going to be people who don’t think you can do it,. There are going to be people who are old fashioned and will discourage the entrepreneurial lifestyle. Even now, I have people who just don’t get what I’m doing and how I can make a living from it. I know for a fact I’ve been judged for leaving my kids to travel or do styled shoots. But what I’ve learned is that you can’t be ashamed of what you do just because the entire world isn’t cheering you on. Only you can know what is right for yourself, your family, and your business, and you can’t let anyone stop you from chasing your dreams.
- It can be hard to balance.
Running your own business as a mom means that you don’t get to throw on a classy work blazer and head out into the adult world every day to get shiz done. Instead your day is going to look like messy buns, spit up on your shirt, and holding a child on your hip while trying to type out a response to a client with your other hand. At least that’s how my days look. If you can find me a mom boss who has her life 100% together please introduce me to that magical unicorn.
Some days I might be a great mom and a crappy business owner, and other days I might rock at my job but be a little less great at the whole mom thing. And I’m working on that.
Balancing is hard, but it’s doable. The only way it’ll work is if you have a real passion for what you are doing. It means late nights catching up after the little ones go down and sacrificing free time. But if you love what you do it won’t feel like work, and that’s the key.
- It is so rewarding
I thrive best when I’m my own boss. The best part about running my own business is that I get to choose my own schedule, how much or how little I want to take on, and how involved I want to be. When we have a lot of personal things going on at home I’m able to easily cut back on how many sessions I’m accepting, and when I feel like I can do more it’s easy to add shoots to the calendar.
It also means I get to spend every day at home with my kids watching them learn and grow and that in itself is rewarding enough for me. I’m sure every parent would want to be home with their babies if they could, and I’m so incredibly thankful for the luxury I have of being able to do so. Being there for all of my children’s big moments is so important to me, and because I run my own business I’m able to do that.
It can be hard, stressful, and downright chaotic sometimes to wear so many hats at once, but at the end of the day for me it is all incredibly worth it.